Fat shaming…really? KNOCK IT OFF.

After 31 beautiful fat years on this earth it wasn’t until like last week, I became incredibly annoyed with people “Fat shaming” others. Like its really a thing. I have never paid much attention to it because I own who I am and whose I am. I was affirmed at a very young age and can “joke” with the best of them but others can’t. Fat or Body shaming means the practice of humiliating someone by making critical comments about their body shape or size.

MYOB= MIND YOUR OWN BODY!!!!

This should not even be an issue. It sounds like a bunch of people who really hate themselves deflecting on other people. For as long as I can remember being Fat was always thee joke. Not sure why everyone made it so popular, but I am here to encourage you that the offense stops and starts with you. Do not give anyone the power to hurt your feelings. You must be so confident and in love with yourself that it does not matter what ANYONE has to say. I know what you’re thinking…this is not always easy. You are correct. As stated in my intro this way of thinking and being was instilled in me from a very young age buts not never too late to start.

1. Love yourself unconditionally

2. Accept what is and change only what you want to

3. Block out other people opinions

4. Feel and Heal from past offenses

5. Live your best life!!!

Family and Friends are often the most hurtful in these situations. In most cases they don’t realize it. It’s something called microaggressions…” the everyday, subtle, intentional and oftentimes unintentional interactions or behaviors that communicate some sort of bias toward historically marginalized groups”. In this case I am referring to plus size individuals. I can’t say that I have always been offended by some of these microaggressions but as I wrote them out it could have easily been. How many times has someone said or done: 

• “ You’re pretty for a Big Girl”

• “ You dress so well for your size”

• “You have such a pretty face…if you would only lose weight”

• “Aint nobody going to kidnap you…”

• “Why is he breathing like that?”

• “Who married him/her?”

• “She know she don’t need to be wearing that…”

• “Stares and looks"

And so many more…unfortunately.

I say all this to say stop judging people based on their weight or size. If you are the person of size love yourself enough to dismiss everyone who can’t love you for who you are. This is not to say genuine concern cannot ever be shared but it’s a way to do that. At the end of the day it’s a personal choice and journey. Be mindful of your comments and how you joke around. Its some truth in every joke, sarcasm or shade.

You are more than your weight…know that!

“You don’t encourage people to take care of their body by telling them to hate it” – Laci Green

“I am fat, and I hate the radical idea that I am allowed to exist” -Unknown